First Things First

We know the age-old saying: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” When living in the age of social media, how do we avoid the comparison trap?

When scrolling through Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, or whatever the hottest social platforms are these days, one of the first and most important things to remember is that social media is 99.9% of the time a highlight reel.

But still…

  • For whatever reason, it can be so easy to convince ourselves that someone else’s “average” day is 1,000% better than our best days.
  • We never know how many takes it took to achieve those beautiful “candid” photos.
  • Filters and photo-editing software is available at the touch of a button.

I’m certainly not saying posing or filters are bad (I use Adobe Lightroom often to help enhance photos!) but they can quickly lead to unhealthy thoughts. We know all of this, yet sometimes we still fall victim to using others’ social media posts as a baseline for what a “happy” life or perfect family, wedding, birthday party, etc. looks like.

When we take a long, hard look in the mirror, the first thing we generally spot, unfortunately, are our own flaws.

When planning a wedding, let’s keep these thoughts in mind:

  • The couple who looks endlessly happy and lovey-dovey in every. single. posted. photo has their own set of issues, disagreements, personality flaws, etc. – trust me! If they don’t, they could be instant best-sellers if they’d provide the rest of us with a how-to-not-have-flaws manual!
  • All those snuggled up, adorable wedding photos? Let’s not forget they were likely taken by a professional photographer – someone who specializes in capturing the perfect poses, angles, lighting, etc.
  • Those exquisite expensive-looking centerpieces you see on Pinterest might have actually been made up with some DIY supplies from the dollar store. Ours were, thanks to our decorative family friend Deana!
  • Chances are SOMETHING at the “dream wedding” you idolize online went a little haywire (ex: freezing cold weather in the midst of a global pandemic… or did that only happen to us?!) 😉
  • The list could go on and on!

Moral of the story is this – comparison is a trap.

Maybe you’re not planning a wedding, but hopefully we can at least agree that that’s true. If not, I’m always down to kindly agree to disagree! 😉

Sure, the internet can be a valuable tool for idea inspiration, but let’s encourage each other to keep a close guard on our hearts and consistently remind yourself of the beauty that is YOUR story.

Looking for a fun send-off idea?

CLICK HERE for the confetti cannons we used! (Pictured above)
We ordered 2 boxes & gave them to our bridal party to set off.
Our photographer gave them the 3, 2, 1, GO!


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